Train Your Mental Toughness #2: Discover your Purpose

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Hello there, and welcome back; this is our #2 article –from a 4 articles series– on how to thrive in life through mental toughness.

Last week we talked about the need to Focus on Yourself First; today, we’ll move on to a second step: Discover Your Purpose.

 

 Discover Your Purpose

15 years ago, I started investigating and experiencing various personal development and peak performance systems and technics through, attending seminars and workshops that had a big impact on my view of the world and life in general; and my state and performance improved significantly because of it.

One of the most valuable benefits I got from all that experience was a crystal clear view of my passions and purpose.

 

Here are some questions you need to ask yourself that will help you realize if you are on course or off course on your life journey:

. What are you conditioned to think you are supposed to do with your life?

. What do you feel you should actually be doing with your life?

. What do you think you should actually be doing with your life?

. Do you have some intuitive feeling that you’re on the wrong path?

. Or is there instead an inner voice telling you that you in did are on the right path?

. What is the one thing you think you’re here for? What is that thing you’d be chasing if nothing else was holding you back?

. What is that special thing you’d be doing if you knew you couldn’t fail?

. What would you do differently if you knew you had only one year to live?

 

Answer all these questions with total honesty, and see where their answers lead you.

For me, it was a really powerful insight that led me to abandon a work path that was slowly but consistently consuming me. The answers to these questions gave me the guidance I needed to pursue my true dream.

I hope they can do the same for you.

 

Next week we’ll find out how to determine the path you want to follow.

Stay strong

Train Your Mental Toughness and Thrive in Everything You Do

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If there is something I’ve learned about success and achievement, is the importance of your mental strength over any other ability or quality you may possess.

We’ve all heard the quote “mind over matter”, and it is quite true; you can achieve anything if you set your mind to it.

For the next 3 weeks, we’ll be delivering 4 blogs with tips on how to build your mental toughness, and the topics will cover the following:

  1. Focus on yourself first
  2. Discover your purpose
  3. Define your path
  4. Create a supportive environment for your new purpose

So, let’s start with the first one then:

Focus on Yourself First

If you want your mind to become an undefeatable weapon at your service, self-awareness is the place to start.

Self-awareness is the ability to look at yourself without any attachment to what you’re going to find. You just look at what is there; emotions, thoughts, patterns… you evaluate everything objectively.

This is the only way to know where you actually stand, what is your starting point. One way to establish your self-awareness is using a journal.

Find a quiet place and use least some 10 minutes a day to write about your thoughts, feelings, etc.
This will be your starting point.

Now you need a destination; something to move towards to.

There is a great tool widely used by the renowned coach Jack Canfield called Vision Board, which can help you define your “destination point”. In it, you simply add pictures or drawings of the things, events, and situations you’d want to achieve for you.

Before taking on these exercises, try doing some deep breathing to center yourself, and spend some time reflecting on who you are, where you are, and what you want for your life. These two points of focus (your actual and your future self), when practiced as a reliable habit, will give you enough knowledge about yourself to move on to the next step in this path to mental toughness: Discover Your Purpose, which we’ll be covering it next week.

 

Until then, keep going, stay strong

Cheers!

 

Life Only Grows Outside Your Comfort Zone

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Like most people, you may want certain things in life, – a nice home, a comfortable bank account, loving relationships, or a rewarding career. You may wish that life was better, or that they had more, or that things somehow were different… But what you really want is what you think those things will make you feel whenever you’d achieve them.

So, why is it that you’re not taking action towards those things or feelings you want?

 

You might even know the steps you need to take to get there – but what’s stopping you?  One of the reasons could be the set of negative images you have about yourself or the effects of toxic experiences that you haven’t processed yet.

You stay in a comfort zone of your own making. You maintain flawed beliefs about yourself and you hold onto guilt and self-doubt.

When you try to achieve your life goals, these negative images and pre-programmed comfort zones always cancel out your good intentions — no matter how hard you try.

The other reason is that, in general, we choose the instant, short-term gratification of the things we know and can control because there is no risk there; we know where this road leads, it’s a road we’ve been before and, although we’re not satisfied with it, at least we know its ups and downs.

Trying something new, on the other hand, presents us with a high risk environment; the stakes are high there, we don’t know what’s going to happen, how long it’s going to take or if we’re ever going to achieve it; so we take the low-level pain of daily resignation to avoid the possibility of failing.

But failing is nothing but the road to success; it’s just a stepping stone… you fail your way to success.

 

So, instead of using willpower as the engine to power your success, you simply let go of your limiting beliefs and change the images you hold about yourself and how “failure” might feel like.

Start talking, thinking and writing about the way things will be when you achieve those goals; and change the fail-oriented approach into a success-oriented one. Flood your unconscious with the wonderful thoughts, feelings, and images of this new soon-to-be reality.