Let’s continue here with our last week’s blog about changing our lives for the better, two minutes at a time.
Change judgment for understanding
When you’re inclined to past judgment to others, first take two minutes and ask what aspects of yourself do I see in this other person?
When we’re upset about somebody else’s behavior or actions, is because it is reminding us of something we don’t like about ourselves.
If we can turn this inner critic into a coach, we can help create a better relationship with ourselves, with others, and live a more positive life.
Get into the habit of coming up with ways to tell others –and by others I mean people who are actually present there with you at the time- what you truly appreciate about them.
Take one minute to think about the reason, and another minute to tell the compliment.
You will make this person happy for sure; you’ll feel good about yourself, and most likely will receive some happy and affectionate feedback in return.
It might seem like a small deed, but it’s known to reduce stress and make us feel very good; so spend –at the very least- two minutes a day hugging people!
Like compliments, hugs can be a simple way to build warmer and more positive relationships with people in your life.
Be interested instead of interesting
Whenever you engage in a conversation with someone, be interested in that person; ask questions about his or her life, interests, passions, and don’t just wait for your turn to talk back, really pay attention to the answers… Get to know and appreciate that person.
The interest you give will most likely be returned in what surely will build into not just a conversation, but a giving and fulfilling relationship.
Shuffle things up a little
Change things, mix them up… whatever you’ve been doing, try something different this time; for instance:
If you always go for the meat, next time try vegetarian.
If you tend to get into conflict often, next time try walking away.
Give away some of your favorite things.
Say yes to something spontaneously and stick to it to the end, see where it leads.
Take a different kind of decisions for today.
Get into the habit of mixing things up and have some fun. Grow your life in small or bigger ways, add unexpected experiences to it.
This practice will make it easier and simpler to step out of your usual comfort zone when you really need to, and also it will make you feel alive!
Talk again next week.
Until then, stay strong!