“Whenever you are happy with something in your life, it is because right now, the conditions of your life match your blueprint –your belief about how life should be in that particular area.”
The world we live in today had created such a culture that we’re taught that we’re not good enough unless we do something really special and unique with our lives.
The thing is, the definition of “special” is totally distorted. We worship celebrities just for impersonating really important people such as doctors, school teachers, stay-at-home parents, law enforcement officers, firefighters, our military, etc.; but we actually disregard or just ignore these everyday heroes in real life.
In today culture, we often found ourselves pushed to do what we believe is expected from us –go to school, get a job, find the right person, get married and have children; instead of following the inner pull of our passions. All those are good things, but not mandatory or exclusive by themselves.
When we follow the push of society instead of the pull of our heart, we cannot create meaningful happiness.
Consider for a moment the beliefs you have about what your life should be about. Those limiting beliefs are actually holding you back from reaching your full potential.
Could you let go of the idea of happiness you had in your mind, and instead, appreciate and be grateful for what you already have?
Goals and dreams are important for each of us, but it’s dangerous to tie our happiness to the ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ we impose onto ourselves. We can’t fit our enjoyment into a rigid mold.
We are the designers of our lives. We create our own happiness.
The equation of happiness
Think about it, whenever you’re happy with something, it is because, at that time, the conditions of your life are equal to the conditions you’ve set for happiness; that is, your beliefs about how life MUST BE in that particular area.
Conversely, when our lives don’t match our expectations, then pain comes, and we interpret that pain as a failure; and that, we’re trying to avoid at all costs because we’re afraid of suffering.
The thing is, pain can be a powerful force for good in our lives. We can take it and use it as an opportunity to grow, and come out stronger.
Let go of the past and what you believe it should be happening, and move on. Regain control of your own happiness.
Knowing that you can create your happiness by letting go of your current mental structure is the ultimate freedom and the only path to true joy.
When we let go and follow our pull of passion, we give room to happiness; we realize that life is not happening to us, it is happening FOR US. When we reach this realization, we can achieve the mindset shift that will allow us to create true happiness.
Remember, no matter what happens in life, you’re always more than that moment and more than the story you’ve created for yourself.
So, ready to throw out your expectations and create your happiness?